Our egos often get scared and elicit a constriction of our hearts when we face the potential end of something. There is an instinct to resist accepting the experience. This might occur in the loss of moving away from a place that has become home, the ending of one career for another or for retirement, the launching of children into the world of adulthood, or the end of a significant relationship. We tend to have a greater awareness of our dance with grief and loss in these more tangible transitions in life. However the cycle is happening in subtler ways much more often. In most cases the presumed ending is actually the transition into the greater experience. We watch this as we experience the trees lose their leaves in the fall, only to grow more magnificent in the spring.
If we trust the transitions of perceived endings and losses to make room for new growth and birthing of ourselves, our relationships, and our life adventures, then we relax our fears and in their place breathe in peace, gratitude and excitement. We release the tense hold of our defenses, and open up our hearts to ourselves and to receiving the next phase of awareness and connection.
In Women Who Run with the Wolves, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, PhD writes:
"It is good to make meditative and daily practice of untangling the Life/Death/Life nature over and over again… What must I give more death to today, in order to generate more life? What do I know should die, but am hesitant to allow to do so? What must die in me in order for me to love? What not-beauty do I fear? Of what use is the power of the not-beautiful to me today? What should die today? What should live? What life am I afraid to give birth to? If not now, when?"
I invite you to consider what your soul is ready to release in order to create anew, and to trust in your own capacity for death and renewal.
There are no endings—only evolutions.